It is a very long post. I can not compress it. But I promise you, every sentence I typed, or added, is because it was essential. I may sound philosophical, but philosophy is the only truth for conveying depth. I may be shallow at times, but depth is what gives me meaning.
Love… … …
Eros – The word erotic comes from Eros. There’s a deeper meaning of Eros. Eros is the love of being one with something. What you consume, what you become one with (mostly physically) is Eros. I am thirsty, I drink water, I feel good while drinking, that is Eros.
Philia – The love that is born out of co-operation. When I drive my car and it co-operates like I want it to be; I feel in love with my car – that is philia. We are working on a classroom project. We feel connected. We share pani-puri after the work for we feel connected because of the co-operation. That is Philia. The love born out of after marriage is philia. They co-operate, and love emerges. It is another thing that people think that love born out of marriage is exclusive, but they too know that, deep within somewhere, it is not the love what love should be.
Neither Eros, nor Philia makes you human. Animals consume and animals co-operate. They are an integral part of this Universe, and they should always be there. Without them, nothing will exist. But… … …
Before the ‘But’, I will introduce you a new word, Kairos. Kairos means the moment which transforms you. Kairos means the moment when you cease to be the ordinary and you transform into something greater than yourself. Kairos is the moment where you expand.
Back to ‘But’… There’s third kind of Love.
Agape – This is not the love born out of consumption or co-operation. This is the love of creation. Agape is the love where you find yourself that you have become a human. Agape is the love where you feel truly loved, not by the other one, but because of the other one. The other one could be a person, a place, a time, whatever. Agape is when you feel transformed and you forget yourself. The love for a child is Agape. This may sound gross, but for the sake of an example, we don’t consume a child, neither the child co-operates. We give, and give, and give, without expecting anything. That is Agape. Because, this giving makes us human. This giving transforms us. This giving makes us more than ourselves. Agape elevates us above ourselves. Agape gives us our Kairos. Agape is that we become everything that we love. It makes you the God, the expansion of yourself. Agape flows through you.
Agape is not sacrifice. Because when you sacrifice, you know that you are losing something. In truth, Agape is where you know you are losing everything, yet, you are gaining everything. After Agape, you cease to become what you were, you transform.
शमा कहे परवाने से, परे चला जा
This is Agape
मेरी तरह जल जायेगा, यहाँ नहीं आ
वो नहीं सुनता, उसको जल जाना होता है… … ..
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Rupesh…
17/02/2021
There’s a great paragraph from mythology, here’s the link.